Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Hair Intervention or How an honest stylist changed my life.

My hair is thick. We're talking scares-stylists thick.  My new stylist introduction generally starts with a phone call with me telling them how thick my hair is. Them reassuring me its not really that thick only to show up and have them make any number of comments about how thick my hair is. 

Generally everyone's solution is to thin it out with those scissors that cut every other hair. The truth is, no one really seems to know what to do with it or would actually offer me their professional opinion until Mark.

Here's the thing, Stylists. We want to know.  If someone comes in and asks what you recommend- Tell Them. Don't be afraid. Tell them. You will win a life long client if you not only tell them, but they believe that you aren't just trend dropping. Get to know your clients, if you have the chance, cut their hair at home to get a sense of who they really are.

Mark did all of these things.  He came and cut my hair in my kitchen.  This was unique for me, but was so much more comfortable.  We weren't rushed. There weren't clients sitting and waiting. We listened to music and he did was he did best.  Throughout the consultation, he was more than open to answering questions and offering suggestions.  Because there was no salon affiliation there were no products to push or brand loyalty.  Here's what I learned.


Less is more.  Less styling time. Less hair products. Less washing.


  1. Less Washing/More Rinsing: Here's the thing about washing. When we over wash with shampoo/soap, our body over produces oil to make up for what is stripped.  Thus the reason we complain our hair gets oily every day.  Try it out. Give your hair 2 weeks. Let your body readjust.  Your scalp will feel better. Your hair will be less oily.  Rinsing 2-3 days per week is fine though.  Rinse thoroughly and spend time rinsing it.
  2. Less Coloring: Stop coloring your hair.  Hair color isn't supposed to be perfect.  It's supposed to be natural.  I've been banned from coloring my hair until further notice.
  3. Less Products: Invest in a nondrying hair product.  I love Kiehls Silk Groom.  Wavy or straight, this product does wonders.
  4. Less Styling Time: A great stylist and a great haircut will cut your hair so that it doesn't take 40 minutes to style every day.  He cut my hair to my hair texture, my face shape and my personality.  
 A little self acceptance...
 By working with my hair, not fighting against its tendencies, it worked and it's surprisingly easy. For the first time ever, my long hair isn't overly styled or piled in a bun on top of my head.  I'm wearing it as nature intended wavy in the back and straighter in the front and air-dried. Guess what?! It not only looks good but it fits me.